This previous weekend a benefit was held to help my family out. With three family members dealing with medical issues all at once we have become financially overwhelmed. I am happy to say the benefit was a success. In this post (which I will try to keep short), I will share part of my experience of the benefit and try to express the thankfulness I feel.
Nerves were shot prior to the benefit
Prior to the benefit my nerves were shot. I am used to being the person that helps other people. It is a new experience for me to rely on the good hearts of others. I kept wondering if anyone would even show up. I kept wondering if people would think that because we own a business that we really didn’t need help. I kept wondering if maybe we weren’t deserving of help since there are other families out there in need of help. All of these thoughts, and more, kept running through my head.
Of course it didn’t help that on the day of benefit I was having a one of my rough days. I am sleeping very poorly and my energy levels on certain days are very low. In order to make it through that day I ended up taking energy drinks. I don’t really like drinking those. But before the benefit I had to drive an hour to watch my middle son in a basketball tournament. Actually going to the tournament probably calmed my nerves down more than anything. The boys played three great games. But as soon as the tournament was done I was back to being on the edge of what almost felt like a nervous breakdown.
On a side-note I want to mention that the coach brought some of the players to the benefit. This was such a pleasant surprise. It really brightened up Lawson’s evening, and mine.
The benefit itself went really well. I was told there were about two hundred and sixty people in attendance. It was all very overwhelming. I spent the whole time trying to go from person to person and thank them for coming. I didn’t make it to everyone, which I regret. Many times I repeated how we were all doing. In particular I had to constantly try to help people understand what is wrong with our youngest son Ashton. He has some sort of hypermobility, which he is still going through the diagnosis process. It is hard for people to grasp a condition which places Ashton in a wheelchair on certain days, and he appears to fine on other days.
At one point I had the microphone in order to introduce my family to the crowd and say thank-you. This was one of the hardest things I’ve ever tried to do. I had become so emotionally overwhelmed with the outpouring of love and support for my family that I was having a hard time speaking. When I tried to say thank-you I kept having tears form and found myself unable to get coherent words out. More than anything this benefit has helped me to understand there are still good people in the world.
How to show my grattitude
Another big worry of mine has been trying to figure out how to show my gratitude. We are working on thank-you cards and an ad in the local paper to thank people. But that seems so insufficient for the amount of support shown to my family. At the benefit I was speaking to a person I know a little bit. She is technically a client of my wife’s and I’ve met her a couple times over the years. She gave the answer I had been looking for as to how to best thank the community. Here is an approximation of what I remember her saying:
Ken, I’ve seen you and Mindy give to the community in many ways over the years. I know you guys have helped other families out. When you guys are back on your feet just continue to do so. That is all the thanks I need.
At the time I was still so overwhelmed from being at the benefit that I didn’t give it a lot of thought. But since then I have thought about it a lot. I agree. The best way for my family to give thanks is to continue helping others. This financial hump is hopefully a short-term condition. As we realign our finances and hopefully get back on firmer financial ground it will be possible to once again help others out. I can’t think of any better thank-you than to “pay it forward” when we are able to do so.
Time to end this post before I ramble too much
Really all I wanted to do in this post was to say thank-you to family, friends, and the community for the overwhelming support they have shown my family. I can’t find the words to properly show my gratitude. Instead I will continue to help others when we are back on our feet and try to live by a pay-it-forward lifestyle.
Today’s song – What a Wonderful World
Today’s song comes from the Great Satchmo, Louis Armstrong. I don’t think this song really needs an introduction. The song is so filled with hope and love that I feel it is appropriate for this post.
Bonus Song – Thank you
Doing a post about being thankful brought this great Led Zeppelin song to mind. This song is actually a love song and it sums up how much I love my wife and am very thankful to have her.